Here is an example of a custody dispute:

Mom wants custody so she can send the son to private school where he will get a good
education. Dad insists on custody because he wants to make sure the child stays in his current
public school where he has his friends and can continue in a good social environment in his
neighborhood. When posed as a custody issue, there is a direct win-lose conflict.

When posed as a public school-private school issue there is a direct win-lose conflict. But when mom and dad look at the real, underlying, need, interest, value or goal, they find that mom values an excellent
education and dad values providing an excellent social environment. These values are not at all
in conflict. If mom and dad can understand and respect the values of one another, they may be
able to identify a way to provide both an excellent education and an excellent social environment
and community for their son.

Last updated on Jan 5, 2012 by NVMS